tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2214712349345936792024-03-06T01:37:46.959-05:00Word MamaLearning to be a compassionate, strong, understanding mother who still holds a thread of sanity at the end of the day.wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.comBlogger149125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-40730381649911612242015-08-22T17:40:00.000-04:002015-09-21T09:27:13.862-04:00I’ve lost…
• My past <br>
• My career <br>
• My self-worth <br>
• My ability to follow pretty much anything through from start to finish without wandering off to investigate something shiny<br>
• My confidence <br>
• My place in a conversation nearly every day for the past three years<br>
• Two years of my children’s’ lives <br>
• Thousands of dollars <br>
• My ability to seamlessly blend into any crowd comfortably<br>
• Literal months worth of sleep<br>
• Friends and relationships <br>
• My independence <br>
• My awesome dream repertoire where I conquered everything thrown at me, could fly and breathe underwater<br>
• My religion<br>
• The respect of my neighbours (Let's just say that keeping up with the Jones' didn't ever register on my to-do list. I also collected garbage for about a year.)<br>
• My sense of security <br>
• My dog (I couldn't offer her the love and care she needed - even though I was at home. She's now my parent's pampered pup)<br>
• All trust in the medical profession/system <br>
• My hair<br>
• My confidence in driving (especially at night or on highways/ in busy cities)<br>
• My love of travel<br>
• My friendships in Ottawa...with the exception of two very determined women who won't give up on me <br>
• Faith in my gut instinct <br>
• Countless hours with people I love <br>
• My memories <br>
• My health <br>
• My ability to hear, see, smell, experience anything medical without the onset of spastic anxiety <br>
• My privacy <br>
• My professional circle <br>
• My flawless resume <br>
• My ability to write and speak easily and fluidly <br>
• My faith in right and wrong, letting karma carry the burden<br>
• My knack of being able to talk to anyone, anywhere <br>
• My outgoing, Pollyanna personality <br>
• My ability to manage money <br>
• The skill of multitasking<br>
• My decisiveness<br>
• Attendance at special family events (weddings, baby showers, birthday parties, etc.)<br>
• Any ability to deal with stress or stressful situations<br>
• My temper more times than I’d like to admit<br>
• My thesaurus brain<br>
• My appetite<br>
• The weight equivalent to my three year-old because of the stress<br>
• My way/ my destination while driving too many times to count<br>
• The respect of my peers<br>
• My church<br>
• The healing birth I needed<br>
• The ability to have more children; physically and mentally<br>
• Trust in my body<br>
• My mind.<br>
That enough? Motherfuckers?!<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-88367183326340593892015-02-21T13:26:00.000-05:002015-02-21T14:44:03.138-05:00Cherish is the word I use to remind me of your loveFor over two years, I barely functioned as a human being. Making a lunch took 45 agonizing minutes as every single decision (ham or jam, banana or apple) rendered me dumbstruck. I had lost so much confidence in my ability to make wise decisions that even the simplest choice made me anxious. What if she choked on a grape?! It would be my fault. I packed it! What if I don't pack enough?! The school will call and they'll start keeping track, judging my ability to be a mother. It was ridiculously disabling.
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I'd spend so long weighing the benefits of washing dishes or clothes that an entire day would pass without me actually accomplishing anything. You can imagine the state of my house.
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Through it all, my husband - my everything, patiently encouraged me. He would set small goals for me so that I could feel a sense of pride, prove to myself that I wasn't completely useless. For months, he asked me to just empty the dishwasher. That's it. How many men, with three kids, his own business, and a schedule that often had him working 6-7 days a week, would have endured/indulged their partner for so long? The thought has kept me awake many a night since my depression lifted.
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I'm by no means out of the rabbit hole, but I do now have an awareness of the world around me. I'm no longer encased in a body bag as I struggle through my days. I can now make simple decisions. Should those decisions fail (cinnamon on chicken? Why not!), I am completely unable to cope with consequences. I feel quite happy and safe behind the wall of cards I've built around myself. If my fortress is blown down by the slightest breeze of discontent, my vulnerability is too obvious; Too raw. It scares me and I retreat into the black bag once more. I'm learning to cope with stress and disappointment like a toddler. Most days it ends in confusion and tears and biting.
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If one amazing thing has come of my disability, it's that I know now just how cherished I am. My family, friends, neighbours, co-workers, and most of all, my husband, have shown me so much patience, understanding, love, acceptance and concern, have all made a positive impact on my little world.
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Hundreds of couples speak their vows every day. Just as many sign divorce papers every day. Finding your soulmate is not easy when billions of people populate the earth. Many people find someone who loves them and this is enough. Love is a powerful thing, but it can't fix everything. For many couples, an extended hardship or the combination of many difficulties unravels the marriage ties that bind. It's a sad reality for many of my own loved ones. Many others simply leave "forever" out of their vows, knowing that such a timeframe is highly improbable.
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I can now confidently say, without a shred of doubt, that Adam is my soulmate. For life. I could not have lived with myself through these past two years. I was a ghost of myself, a messy grey reproduction of the person I was. Intimacy was achieved only through duty, my heart couldn't be in it. I hid myself in my phone, shutting out everyone around me. And he patiently waited. He would be working a 13 hour day lifting hundreds of pounds of equipment when I would text him and ask him what colour socks I should buy for the kids. How he didn't go insane still baffles me.
Adam held me when I cried, he soothed me when I raged, he loved me when I hated myself, he drew me from the blackness with his unwavering love and devotion. The commitment I feel for this man has never been stronger. I feel passionately about fulfilling his every desire, making him proud of me, our home and my parenting. I am utterly devoted to him and I feel humbled to know that he feels the same. I have certainty in our relationship. No power struggle. No mind games. Just unconditional love. I think it was this realization that saved me. I've always had that love from my family, but from someone who chose me seemed too good to be true. He may not share my blood, but he holds my heart.
Thank you Adam. I will spend the rest of my life proving to you that I love you as much as you love me.
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Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-26219084527434191402015-02-01T13:39:00.001-05:002018-03-02T09:26:21.421-05:00The truth and nothing butI nearly deleted this blog. I was so disgusted by my last post that I just couldn't bring myself to look at it. It was written with the best of intentions, of course. I wanted Teagan to have a beautiful birth story, just like her brother and sister. The truth seemed too sad and empty. Too traumatic. Too abusive. But it needs to be told.
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My last post is all true, just glossed over. I edited out the raw truth just enough to make it a socially acceptable birth story. Here's the truth about Teagan's birth in a long, rambling, 2,000 word blog post:
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My water broke and I waited a day and a half before telling anyone (it was an inconsistent trickle and I thought I may just be incontinent). The midwives chastised me and we met at Cambridge hospital. I was 35 weeks.
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Once the hospital testing showed that it was indeed amniotic fluid, the midwives said that I'd waited too long and now because I was over a month early and had been leaking for 24 hours without consistent contractions, they were handing my case over the the OB. Just like that. I had no fever, the fluid was clear, baby and I were both okay.
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While they babbled over signatures and forms, I started madly trying to get contractions started. I did NOT want to be another cog in the maternity wheel. I knew what I was up against for my intervention and drug-free birth desires and now my only lieutenants in the birth battle were waving their surrender flag before we even TRIED! I felt so abandoned. Like I'd been double crossed. When the midwives returned, I showed them on their stupid monitor that when I used nipple stimulation, I could indeed produce regular contractions. Could we not try for an hour or two to naturally start my labour?! They gave the strip a bored look and said yes, but what happens when you stop stimulating. I did, and those mountains soon evened into plains. "Yeah, this is going to take a while, the hospital will take good care of you."
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Now, take note that this is in the middle of the afternoon. Lunch is over, supper a few hours away. It's not like I dragged them out of bed at 3am. Why wasn't I allowed to even try? How could I believe in my body if the people who told me I could do it had suddenly bailed? From this point onwards, I questioned everything I knew. When the doctor wanted to start me on Pitocin, I declined, noting that in a prior pregnancy, my body and baby had reacted badly to it, plus I had a prior c-section. "Did you have a vaginal birth?" I did. "Then what are you worried about?" With no comrades, my protests seemed petty and argumentative. As if they were patting me on the head like a child. "Be a good patient and listen to the doctor, would you? She didn't go to ten years of university to be challenged by a writer."
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And so, in went the pitocin. I made it clear that I only wanted the minimum amount, just enough to start regular contractions. Every time the nurse came to check on me and the machine, she'd raise the rate of delivery a little. When I caught her doing it and asked if she was increasing it, she outright lied and told me they were just trying to adjust the dosage to align with my contractions.
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I knew from that moment on that all of my protests and requests would be ignored. Not keen on pushing on my back with monitors all over me, I called defeat and asked for a c-section. The doctor came back and checked my progress. She said, "No, I think you can do this." Me, who hadn't even been out of the hospital for a week after suffering from kidney stones and pneumonia before my water broke. I was weak, still labouring to breathe without sparking a choking cough.
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...Maybe I can. A ray of light shone through. Someone believed in my body. I accepted an epidural to help me rest for the pushing stage. It was late at night by now, so we dimmed the lights and my husband, mum and I drifted into fitful sleep. But that nurse wasn't napping. She was gradually increasing my Pitocin to the MAXIMUM amount allowed. This despite the fact that I had a prior c-section (Pitocin has been shown to cause uterine rupture because it over-stresses the scar tissue by making contractions abnormally long and closer together. But hey, less waiting around.) Despite my requests to only have the minimum.
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I started to feel the contractions above the numbness of the epidural. Something felt wrong. My heart was beating too fast. Teagan's too slow. They tried a test to analyze her blood to indicate distress. The results were inconclusive. They couldn't keep the doppler on her heart because she still had plenty of room to swim around in there, being five weeks early. They applied a scalp probe (the same instrument that nearly blinded Felicity). Anxiety levels were rising. As soon as they heard the slow, scary thump of my baby's heart, the room exploded.
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I was rolled onto my left side, given oxygen, given nitrous under my tongue. People shoved forms in my face while yelling that we were losing the baby, and generally being scary as shit. We were whisked into the OR and the tension in the room was thick enough to taste. I was having a panic attack. I told the aneasthetician that I couldn't breathe and thought I was going to be sick. Obviously what the OB was yelling was more important because he patted my head like a good dog and completely ignored me.
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Adam was still waiting to be let in, people were rushing around behind the curtain of mystery. Metal instruments hitting the tray, someone asking me if I could feel this or that as they tested the numbness. Suddenly Adam was there and I clung to him like a startled chimp would her mum. He was the ONLY one I trusted in that room. He was also the only one who didn't have any authority.
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I held his eyes with my own, filled with absolute terror. By the sounds of things, it wasn't going well. The baby we had tried for so long to hold, was going to leave us before she reached our arms. I was wracked with sobs and Adam's red eyes blinked silent tears into his mask. At this point, he doctor stood ON the operating table and began swearing as she pulled Teagan's tiny body so forcefully that my own body was lifted from the table. "Help me here!" she yelled at a nurse, who then, without consent (or even informing me), shoved her entire hand into my undialated vagina. No lube. No thought that perhaps this part of my body was important to me. She attempted to push Teagan's head out of my birth canal as the doctor yanked on her from above.
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You see, the problem was that they'd filled me SO FULL of pitocin that they couldn't stop my uterus from contracting. They were injecting drugs right into the muscles and they continued to pulse and grip. I started to feel VERY lightheaded. The doctor was full-on swearing. "Come on! Fuck! We need to get this fucking baby out NOW!" As a nurse called the minutes passing, I knew that we were coming up on the crucial six minute mark (the length of time between the first scalpel cut and the baby exiting the womb, for acceptable maternal and infant mortality rates).
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She decided that she needed to get my overworking uterus out of the way and made another cut, this time internally from my bikini line to past my belly button. Through this hole, she pulled my floppy blue baby out by her feet. They brought her straight to the warming table. A midwife appeared, dressed identical to the hospital staff, and told us they were just working on her a little, and then rambled on in reassuring tones while I listened to the nurses and pediatrician bagging my baby to get her breathing.
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The seconds that ticked by without hearing her cry broke something inside of me. I knew then that I was never supposed to have a third child. This was karma/God/the universe telling me to STOP FUCKING TRYING! And then she mewled. Like a newborn kitten. A tiny noise that meant my baby was alive. Adam and I collapsed into each other in relief. Sobbing. I saw her, then everything went black.
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When I woke up, I was in recovery. I immediately panicked, asking about my baby. While she was alive and in the NICU under dad and gran’s watchful eyes, every time I passed back out before I could hear the response. This scene played out over and over for hours. I’d lost a lot of blood in the surgery. Finally I could stay conscious for more than a few seconds. I then discovered that I was still completely numb from the waist down. The nurse seemed very surprised by this. As I drifted in and out, adjustments were made to IV’s and the next time I awoke, two nurses were there, rubbing my legs. They asked me if I could move. I could not. Eventually, I managed to make my big toe twitch once. “That’s enough for me!” the nurse declared and called a porter to bring me to the baby that I had been obsessively asking about for hours.
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When I was wheeled onto the maternity floor and saw my mum, all of the terror, the pain, the grief just came rushing back. She looked so tired. So spent. Her face told me that she hadn’t slept at all since they whisked me from the labour room. She was left after the flurry of activity in an empty room. No idea where I was, what had happened, if I was alive, if the baby was alive. I can not imagine being in her shoes. We embraced and I managed to choke out "The baby?" That fierce sleep-deprived mama bear demanded that the nurses bring me my baby NOW!! They must have noticed the pulsing vein and twitching eyelid because they changed their tune and went to retrieve Teagan immediately.
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The rest of the stay was a crazy mix of jaundice, UV lights, infections, fevers, heavy drugs, intense pain. Oh, the pain. The nurses weren’t told that I was cut vertically and horizontally, so they rolled their eyes when I tried to move and cried out in pain. When my night nurse decided to palpate my uterus (medical speak for “apply intense pressure on a very tender area just after surgery”), I thought I would explode from the searing pain. She apologized offhandedly as she pushed firmly on my vertical incision. The second incision was in the records when I received them, so I’m not sure why the nurses were in the dark.
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I think we left the hospital when Teagan was 10 days old. That was ten days too long. I knew something was wrong with me right after the birth. My vagina ached and stung even though I hadn’t even been close to pushing. (I’d later find out this was due to the nurse fisting me. A great discovery for someone who is an assault survivor.) I couldn’t stop crying. I cringed when any of the staff came to check on me. I was twitchy to escape. I poured my heart out to my primary midwife (who had been away on vacation the weekend that I gave birth). She noted that she thought I had Post Partum Mood Disorder. I did not let the hospital staff see this. The last thing I wanted was an extended stay for mental health reasons. As far as I was concerned, the hospital staff were the enemy and I was behind the lines.
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I have spent the last two and a half years trying to recover. My official diagnosis is a long line of acronyms (PPP, PPMD, C-PTSD, OCD, ADD, HBI, LMNOP). I’ve run the gamut of specialists, therapies, medications, alternate medications, spiritual paths…
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I’m not the completely shattered person I once was. My brain is slowly knitting together in new ways. I’m working around my disability slowly but surely. I have an amazingly supportive partner and a fantastic support network. But they deserve a post all their own.
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So there it is. You have just read an important part of my therapy: The truth, from my perspective. It’s raw, unedited and exactly what I need to release the dark ball of anger that I have been holding onto from my birth.
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And “publish.”
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Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-62559035166925929422012-06-22T10:58:00.002-04:002013-09-16T16:48:10.474-04:00A journey like no other<i>In some circles, babies born to families after the loss of a child are referred to as "Rainbow Babies." The idea is that the baby is like a rainbow after a storm. A Rainbow Baby is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn't mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope.</i>
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On May 22 we welcomed our little rainbow baby to the world, Teagan Violet Marie.
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Some day, I'll be able to tell a teenage Teagan that I was in labour with her for over two months. Beginning at 28 weeks, I started having contractions and was put on strict bed rest. We were in and out of hospital, sometimes staying for a week and other times released within hours. We were even transferred by ambulance with lights and sirens wailing to a larger hospital when her entrance seemed imminent around 32 weeks.
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I came off of bedrest at 35 weeks. It was such a glorious feeling to be able to walk around and complete simple tasks. The contractions continued, but never progressed to full-on labour.
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At 36 weeks, I was at the grocery store picking up dinner supplies when I felt a small gush that stopped me dead in my tracks. My brain rambled through the possible causes and decided it simply couldn't be my water. I took another step and was rewarded with another gush. I quickly gathered my items and checked out. When I returned home, I told Adam that I was pretty sure my water was leaking. He asked what we should do and I decided that a wait and see approach was probably best. If it was my water, my contractions should pick up shortly, right?
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I slept fitfully through the night without any notable contractions. The next day the leaking continued, but my body produced no other hint that labour was imminent. I waited until my in-laws arrived around noon before calling my midwives to report my situation.
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Unfortunately, my laid back approach bit me in the butt. My midwife team was all on vacation for the weekend and with 18 hours elapsing since the break and it being PROM (premature rupture of membranes), the stand-in midwives abruptly transfered my care to the OB on call at the hospital. After building a trusting relationship for my VBAC journey for seven months, my care was now in the hands of a doctor I'd never met and who had no idea about our heartbreaking journey to get to this point. They confirmed that the fluid was amniotic in nature and began preparing for an induction.
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While nipple stimulation could produce some pretty strong contractions, they weren't consistent and failed to make any changes in my cervix. Instead I was hooked up to the dreaded Pitocin to kick my body into gear.
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Within a few hours I was having regular, painful contractions every four minutes. Unfortunately, they still couldn't budge my cervix of steel. With me still recovering from pneumonia and kidney stones, it all felt too overwhelming and draining. I knew that I couldn't endure labour naturally if I wanted to have any energy left to push so I asked for an epidural to buy myself some sleep and conserve strength.
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By about midnight, I was 5cm dilated and the pitocin was maxed out. That's where we stayed for nearly two hours. My nurse noticed some troubling patterns in baby's heart rate around this time. It was hard to keep a constant monitor on her heart as she kept shying away from the machine so the doctor performed a few tests to determine her stress level and health. They all came back within normal range, but they decided to put in a fetal scalp monitor to more closely and accurately monitor her heart rate. She wasn't hooked up for five minutes before they realized that her heart was going from the 140's down to the 70's for almost a minute.
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It was at this moment that fear gripped my heart that we were going to lose her. We'd had so many scares along the way, but this seemed like the real deal. I was certain that I would deliver a stillborn baby.
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The next half an hour are a blur. A c-section was announced and everyone in the room flew into action. An oxygen mask was placed on my face and I was given nitrous under my tongue to stop the contractions. They placed my on a gurney and practically jogged down the hall to the elevators. I was in the OR being prepped within minutes.
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I'd had a c-section with Felicity (due to her brow presentation), so I thought I knew what to expect. I didn't. This was a true emergency section. There was no music or banter or calming words. Everyone in the room was rushing and shouting technical terms and instructions. Instruments clanked and machines beeped as I lay behind my blue curtain. After what felt like an eternity, Adam was seated next to my head. I held his hand as tightly as I could.
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Though I was neatly filleted, the doctor couldn't manage to grasp Teagan's head to pull her out. The clock continued to tick and I could feel the tension in the room rising. Apparently even three doses of nitrous couldn't stop my uterus from squeezing with all it's might and Teagan's head had wedged deep in my pelvis. The Pitocin had worked a little too well. The OB then decided to slice me vertically (making a T-incision) and remove Teagan by her feet. The doctor was swearing and panting and lifting my body off the table with her efforts. I was terrified and completely panicked. Finally the doctor was able to get her body out and she flipped the baby's torso onto my belly, head still firmly wedged inside. At this point, my midwives (who were observing) thought that we may have lost the baby (though they didn't tell me this).
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With some very firm pulling, they finally managed to free her from my womb - six minutes after surgery began. They rushed her to the warming table and the silence in the room was deafening. No tiny cries pierced the silence. No gurgling or coughing. I watched in horror as my baby lay on the warming table, being bagged to get oxygen into her lungs. Her limbs lay limp. After what felt like an eternity, a tiny mew escaped. Adam and I both burst into sobs. Our baby girl was alive!
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They took Teagan to the NICU and Adam stayed with her. I went to the recovery room for what seemed like forever. In reality it was nearly three hours before I was released to go upstairs and meet my daughter. When we reached the labour ward, my mum was perched on the benches looking very tired and very drawn. She had been waiting for five hours to see her daughter. We only had to look at one another for the tears to burst forth again. It was now 7am.
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The nurses understood my panic and fear and brought my baby girl to me to hold and love over. Adam called from home (where he was getting the children ready for school) and we decided together that her name would be Teagan Violet Marie. She was tiny, 5lbs 8ozs, and peaceful and perfect. While it was quite the journey to bring her into the world, she was well worth the trauma.
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Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-52002393797540504772011-08-31T19:38:00.004-04:002011-09-03T20:43:37.959-04:00The silver lining of the red plagueOn one of the forums I regularly haunt, there was a discussion on why that time of the month can be a positive thing. At first I scoffed at the idea. After 14 months of trying to conceive a baby, I found the idea that there was anything positive about a failed cycle laughable. But as the idea rolled around in my brain, I realized that there were positives to having a period:
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<br />1. I actually get a period every 30 days. I didn't realize what a blessing this was until I started talking to other women struggling with infertility.
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<br />2. Soft, squishy, pretty mama cloth. It's my lingerie of that time of the month. I actually get excited choosing out which pattern and luxurious fabric will grace my tush for the day.
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<br />3. I can end any stressful days with a glass of wine...or three without worrying if there’s a tiny fetus in there also indulging.
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<br />4. It gives Adam and I a break from our regular amorous endeavours. We cuddle more (without it having to lead anywhere) and by the time my week is over, we’re both ready to start fresh!
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<br />5. I can play scientist with my Diva cup. Gross but true. I find it all fascinating!
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<br />6. It's another three weeks before that familiar pang hits of "what if?"
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<br />7. If I'm feeling delusional, my bloat is enough that I can stick out my gut and pretend that I'm pregnant to wig out my coworkers.
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<br />8. It means I'm still young enough to not be menopausal, which means we still have a chance.
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<br />So there you are. I guess there really is a silver lining to every situation!<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-38037763219614690302011-08-17T13:43:00.002-04:002011-08-17T13:50:19.560-04:00Escaping the gloomiesI have been living through an extended period of what I call "the gloomies." I don't want to call it depression. Many people in my life suffer from that affliction and I don’t think what I’ve been going through is as serious as that. I just haven’t been myself. For nearly a year now, it’s almost like I’ve been watching a live stage production of my life instead of being an active participant.
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<br />My trip to England earlier this month brought this revelation to light. I had assumed that my struggle was because I’m a mum of two young children who also has a demanding career. When I arrived in England without the weight of my mum, wife, and career-woman roles, I thought I would instantly spring to life. Instead, I felt the weight of my own body and thoughts pulling me back from the fun and interaction I wanted to have. I found myself once again observing others. I realized that perhaps this was more than just everyday stress.
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<br />I’ve since found that just recognizing and outing my personality change has been therapeutic. Weaning Fliss has helped to even out my hormones and I’ve been doing a better job of recognizing that I can’t change who people are at work, I just have to find a way to mesh our working styles. I’m starting to feel as if I’m surfacing from a long submersion. I can feel the warmth of the sun again and the world seems a little brighter.
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<br />I’m left with a lingering feeling of guilt as I recognize what impact my gloomies have had on those around me. Adam, especially, has borne the brunt of my veiled existence. He has been carefully picking up the balls I’ve been dropping. Rarely complaining. Rarely asking why. Just quietly standing beside me, ready to catch me if I fell. I wonder what my extended family thought (especially those who haven’t seen me in 13 years). I feel as if I wasted a part of my trip by not truly living it. I find myself wanting to go back to have different, more involved conversations. I want to dance on the beach. I want to be silly and cuddly with my cousin’s baby. I want to snuggle with my parents and hug my aunts and uncles more. To just be the person I am instead of this pale reproduction I’ve become.
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<br />I’m peeling off layers now; getting closer to who I was. Who I want to be again: The fun one. The social one. The supporter and listener. The one who will comfortably talk with anyone and manage to draw out intimate details of their lives through casual conversation. I feel like any day now, that last gossamer layer will fall away and instead of watching from the balcony, I’ll be a part of the action. The curtains will part and the stage that is my life will be mine again.
<br />Bring on the diva.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-58757580603811674082011-05-24T11:28:00.007-04:002011-05-24T14:29:58.424-04:00To dream the impossible dream<div>Lately I’<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">ve</span> been having what I can only describe as a mid-life crisis. It’s confusing and troubling and unsettling because I really do cherish and enjoy the life that I have. While I live my blessed, comfortable <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">existence</span>, something inside of me incessantly whispers that I need something more! Something different! Something exotic! Something exciting!<br /><br />I’m sure some of this stems from the emotional trauma of trying to expand our family. With no way to change what has happened or to make a healthy baby magically appear in my womb, I grasp at ways that I can control my life. Things I can have influence over. Magic and wonder that I could embrace as my own!<br /><br />I’<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">ve</span> started with my hair. This weekend I went from this:<br /></div><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinUrKz94blisLIQvovjrB7Wr2OrMJzpj58NEQjhw_CUqsjRy1DoC41Z_VWp0ZEPqpRiEzgOVdNUtIwAyfYNz0kSYobtnCna8ATmTl_qdQnwTiXmiXUYJMyGidRUzS043itjCigi_R8KQI/s1600/Feb2011.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 150px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5610306112517588258" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinUrKz94blisLIQvovjrB7Wr2OrMJzpj58NEQjhw_CUqsjRy1DoC41Z_VWp0ZEPqpRiEzgOVdNUtIwAyfYNz0kSYobtnCna8ATmTl_qdQnwTiXmiXUYJMyGidRUzS043itjCigi_R8KQI/s200/Feb2011.JPG" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>To this:<br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzFV22qkbQm8Z5UXYf9O8sGz4J2XWiiIubv1uLIReJsyYMb5WA9fFUx28Sj8_uWwG5iknS-qlvmDr0ykNMjDrOg3_nXEpb23WyF0AXzajd0-WBNjYSGayyRNZPLs_mRJFXKr1TICH6uUE/s1600/May2011.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 150px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5610306344706190898" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzFV22qkbQm8Z5UXYf9O8sGz4J2XWiiIubv1uLIReJsyYMb5WA9fFUx28Sj8_uWwG5iknS-qlvmDr0ykNMjDrOg3_nXEpb23WyF0AXzajd0-WBNjYSGayyRNZPLs_mRJFXKr1TICH6uUE/s200/May2011.JPG" /></a><br />I don’t know how much it’ll help. For now it seems to have taken some of the focus away from that little voice.<br /><br />In the past, when this adventurous niggle raised its voice, I would either get a piercing or a tattoo. Somehow making holes and marks on my body seemed to quell the beast. I just have a feeling that it won’t be so easy this time…<br /><br />See, I’m married to an eternal dreamer. Adam is always coming up with crazy ideas on how to make money. His last musing was to start a submarine tour business down in Costa Rica. (We both fell in love with the country and the people when we visited on our honeymoon.) For some reason the idea behind that dream stuck with me.<br /><br />The reasonable part of my brain says that moving to another country to start all over is crazy and irresponsible. We moved from Ottawa so that our children could know their extended family, living in the southern hemisphere would hardly make that easy. I have a great job that pays well and has amazing benefits. Could I throw that away?<br /><br />But this whisper speaks right to my heart. “<em>Be free to live YOUR dream</em>!” it taunts. “<em>Live the life of excitement and exotic locations you always wanted</em>!”<br /><br /><br />I mean, who <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">hasn</span>’t <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">dreamt</span> of leaving Canadian winters behind to pursue a half-baked idea somewhere warm and wonderful. My parents left England in their 20’s to set out on their own adventure across the ocean. Maybe this desire to stake out an exotic life in another country is genetic!<br /><br />I fear regretting such a life-altering decision. I fear not making such a life-altering decision and regretting my inaction. I never want to lead a life of regrets. In fact, most of my days I make choices based on the fact that even utter failure is full of experience and lessons learned. Not doing anything is the worst action of all.<br /><br /><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">Ack</span>, I’m so conflicted.<br /><br />Have you ever been taunted with these crazy dream thoughts? Ever wanted to uproot your entire family to seek out the unknown? What did you do?<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-76008886238762461932011-04-25T20:33:00.005-04:002011-04-25T21:06:01.228-04:00A losing streak like no otherThe very event that was supposed to bring our family so much joy has instead brought nothing but heartache. This pregnancy was so wanted, so loved. I never even contemplated that such a miraculous blessing could go so wrong.<br /><br />After undergoing surgery in March for my ectopic pregnancy, my levels quickly dropped from 4,000 to 200 within a week. My doctor assured me that he anticipated no further problems. Then the following week, my bloodwork showed that my hormone levels had climbed again to 600. When a second test came back at 900, my doctor called to discuss further treatment.<br /><br />When you have a "persistent ectopic pregnancy" the only real option you're given is a drug called methotrexate. This is a chemotherapy drug that prevents your body from absorbing or processing folate - which rapidly dividing cells need to live. So it works on cancer and on fetal tissue.<br /><br />I asked for alternatives. There were none. I asked for time. There was none. I had no option but to take an injection of a chemical so toxic that they enter the room with hazmat suits and buckets. They check the needle entry site a few minutes after the injection for chemical skin burns. They incinerate anything this substance touches. And they injected it into my body.<br /><br />It's made me sick. It's made me tired. It's really like having a bad hangover for a week. Let's just say that I have a whole new appreciation for cancer patients who have to take the shot on a regular basis.<br /><br />It's not the physical effects of the drugs that have really set me back in my healing. This pregnancy not only stole my dream of adding a third child to our family, but with the chemo, it also took from me a special bond with Fliss. With the drug in my system, I could no longer nurse Felicity. I was forced to wean her without any warning. Without any gentle weaning. One day she happily nursed for comfort and nutrition, the next day that option was stolen from her. From us.<br /><br />I feel like I'm mourning another loss. With our breastfeeding relationship ended, Fliss is no longer my baby, but a big girl. That one thing that I could give her and no one else could is gone. She still asks for her "neh-nehs" five days later. Still slides fluttery fingers down to stroke my chest. And when I tell her that her nursies are broken, she looks at me with those giant blue eyes as if she can understand that I feel the same loss that she does.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh80DGtp7OrI43RIeBDJWtFzwHzFonX4ZPUBhJgAfGwEi8jLebn9WjRPf-0I9Cw0r8t0SokQ1d2W2lO2qgPAXxX7yfhI_hTiL7lrJdJ3iC3qh219cy45vR7gsfVhMDn9HIhc-oS6uPi63Y/s1600/baby_blues.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 377px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh80DGtp7OrI43RIeBDJWtFzwHzFonX4ZPUBhJgAfGwEi8jLebn9WjRPf-0I9Cw0r8t0SokQ1d2W2lO2qgPAXxX7yfhI_hTiL7lrJdJ3iC3qh219cy45vR7gsfVhMDn9HIhc-oS6uPi63Y/s400/baby_blues.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5599691333876671426" border="0" /></a><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-44990794285869894432011-04-10T15:38:00.007-04:002011-04-10T15:59:24.161-04:00Perception is everythingMy pastor came to visit me this week to talk about Libi. Being relatively new to our church, I was looking forward to getting to know Mark on a more personal level. I hoped that perhaps he would pray for our family and maybe give me some answers as to why these things happen. What I didn't anticipate was his ability to completely change my way of thinking and in one hour advance my healing more than I've done in two weeks.<br /><br />Mark told me that he believes that pregnancy is the bridge between the physical world and the spiritual world. It's such a special time for the mama because she's the only one who truly knows and connects with this new soul for nine whole months.<br /><br />He told me that he believes that when a baby passes in utero or shortly thereafter, that soul is not lost. He or she does not head back to heaven to spend the rest of their days. That soul just waits patiently for another chance to cross into the physical world. He told me to think about my losses not as seven lost babies, but seven times that this soul has attempted to join our family. He said this must be a very tenacious soul who knows that for some reason, the timing is not quite right.<br /><br />I can't tell you what this change in view has done for me. I no longer feel that I have seven dead babies in my heart. Instead, I feel almost a peace knowing that Libi will one day return in huggable form. I feel encouraged to continue our efforts to grow our family (in time). If this little soul has tried so hard to enter our world, the least I can do is open the door one more time.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-90741513338717944742011-04-08T12:39:00.005-04:002011-04-08T13:32:47.178-04:00Healing heartsEvery so often, my husband does something so spectacularly thoughtful that I fall in love with him all over again. Last night was one of those occasions.<br /><br />Adam had run some mystery errands earlier in the night. Vague and deflective about where he was, I figured that he was up to no good, buying video games or gun paraphernalia.<br /><br />Boy was I wrong.<br /><br />When I went upstairs to go to bed, I cleared off the three baskets of clean laundry from my bed. When I turned around to flop myself into bed, I realized there was a little pile sitting on my pillow. A solitary red rose, a gift box, and a card.<br /><br />Written on the envelope was this:<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_8rp_-dEDXdS6nZsrYIufFaYk3WfZOwrOiy_l1bI7nNstgRDp4OShu7Xrx3G-mgev4X1ELaPEREqrKpnu8fXc-5l6wFVII7_9jhfCAdDaVFyL1gZzinj89zFcEMNGxoS0iWsuyNiaTig/s1600/IMG_0671.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 299px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_8rp_-dEDXdS6nZsrYIufFaYk3WfZOwrOiy_l1bI7nNstgRDp4OShu7Xrx3G-mgev4X1ELaPEREqrKpnu8fXc-5l6wFVII7_9jhfCAdDaVFyL1gZzinj89zFcEMNGxoS0iWsuyNiaTig/s400/IMG_0671.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5593258235573651698" border="0" /></a><br />Inside was a card which immediately sent me into tears. Adam wrote every supportive word a grieving mother would want to hear. He was sensitive and touching and loving.<br /><br />Inside the cardboard box was this:<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjU1kx1gJPc2JEuZhRNkIFzt6Msgvb7IszBQoYUFWRZyQcRFJIbpevkVr3VerkmKaCOVP4_Mh4WMiDfLnAv7wopZl_iR1yd-AID6Hzwi59yJ8_PCK5yNJCbNT-rhGBvm5CQsiF2lJH_6ZA/s1600/IMG_0686.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 390px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjU1kx1gJPc2JEuZhRNkIFzt6Msgvb7IszBQoYUFWRZyQcRFJIbpevkVr3VerkmKaCOVP4_Mh4WMiDfLnAv7wopZl_iR1yd-AID6Hzwi59yJ8_PCK5yNJCbNT-rhGBvm5CQsiF2lJH_6ZA/s400/IMG_0686.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5593263193425046146" border="0" /></a>A gorgeous hardwood box with a painting of a winter fairy on top. Given that it snowed the day we lost Libi, it was just perfect. But nothing prepared me for what was inside....<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVEyKrXZtwEHMPhyphenhyphen5HZS4uPkMkqwE_PdvhqJEMrc-Wmh2KYOpygoSfy_ai_3ynYFvokzl4QxGK8_CzAgQJRddTZDtRtTLR6qhnslX4M7rTywDjPqENEf9mQ_pX09f48x0BP8kIl85Y1W4/s1600/IMG_0676.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 299px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVEyKrXZtwEHMPhyphenhyphen5HZS4uPkMkqwE_PdvhqJEMrc-Wmh2KYOpygoSfy_ai_3ynYFvokzl4QxGK8_CzAgQJRddTZDtRtTLR6qhnslX4M7rTywDjPqENEf9mQ_pX09f48x0BP8kIl85Y1W4/s400/IMG_0676.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5593264024010649474" border="0" /></a>A heart shaped locket with Libi's name and the date that we lost her engraved onto the silver. Inside, Adam had printed the words "Never met, Never forgotten."<br /><br />I bawled. I cried so hard that I made no noise. I then went downstairs and curled myself in his lap with my arms around his neck for what seemed like hours. With his thoughtful gesture, he had memorialized the little girl we lost. He had acknowledged my pain. He had given me something beautiful to remember her by. He reaffirmed that my choice in a life mate was the best decision I've ever made.<br /><br />In the fairy box now rest the pregnancy tests that heralded her existence, the hospital band that signifies the end of her journey, and a little piece of my soul. I hope that someday her spirit returns to us so that I can replace the words in my locket with pictures of a little girl who found her way back.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-61492380085632290512011-04-04T12:39:00.004-04:002011-04-04T13:11:02.271-04:00Losing Libi and finding my way<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">I know this little baby was just a little gummy bear in shape. Only the size of a blueberry. But to me, she was my child. I had a strong feeling from the start this this child was a girl. I have named her Libi. It feels right that with the amount of love I had for her, that she have a proper name. Libi means love or beloved in Hebrew. It seems very fitting.<br /><br /></span>My body is healing quickly. The incisions are sealing and the bruising has surfaced. My belly is slowly deflating and the bleeding has ceased. The pain is becoming manageable and I have been moving more easily.<br /><br />What I'm left with are the residual hormones of pregnancy. I feel as pregnant today as I did a week ago. I have morning sickness, pregnancy fog, a keen sense of smell, sore breasts...my body doesn't seem to realize that there is no baby left to nurture. It seems a cruel reminder of what I have lost.<br /><br />The lingering symptoms also worry me that perhaps the surgery didn't eliminate everything. That there may be a tiny piece of placenta remaining in my tube, still contributing to the hormonal soup inside of me. If this is the case, I have to take a chemotherapy drug to prevent those cells from dividing so that my body can reabsorb the offending tissue. This treatment would also mean that I'll have to wean Fliss. A secondary blow that I don't think I could handle right now.<br /><br />I'll be taking blood tests every week to ensure that my pregnancy levels are falling and that they reach zero. I'm praying that my HcG starts to recede quickly. This daily reminder of what I wanted so badly is making it hard to heal my soul as quickly as my physical being. My emotional state lags far behind my scars. <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"></span><br /><br />I've been reminded a few times during my grieving that things could be much, much worse. There are stories out there that make my own pain seem insignificant. I've been guided to be thankful for the blessings I can count; my family, my friends, co coworkers, my church and congregation. These people stand behind me and lift me up. I am blessed with so much love and support. <br /><br />Perhaps this was why I had to lose my little Libi. I needed to be reminded not to take life for granted. Every day is a blessing. Every person in my life a gift. Lesson learned.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-130493812622418762011-04-01T17:54:00.004-04:002011-04-01T18:23:59.507-04:00DevastationFor nearly a year, Adam and I have been trying to create another little blessing to love. During this time, we've lost six tiny babies. It's been a hard time.<br /><br />This past Monday, we received the best news I could imagine: my blood test confirmed that I had a healthy, growing baby about 6.5 weeks old. An ultrasound was planned for next week and I made my first appointment with the midwives. I felt as if our struggles were finally over and my faith had carried us through.<br /><br />Then on Wednesday afternoon I began cramping. At first, it felt like normal early pregnancy pains but very quickly they progressed to be unbearable. I left work early and by the time I got home, I was in tears from the pain. Adam drove me straight to the ER.<br /><br />Once there, I was <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">triaged</span>, medicated, scanned and diagnosed within an hour and a half. The pregnancy was ectopic. The baby had implanted itself in my right fallopian tube and was now big enough that there was a threat of the tube rupturing.<br /><br />I had to sign a form consenting to them surgically removing the baby. Within six hours of arriving at the ER, I was put under and my little healthy, poorly-positioned baby was flushed from my body. <br /><br />Up until the surgery, I was numb. It all seemed like a bad dream. I was sure they'd get in there and realize they were wrong. Why would God take away a baby that we had waited so long for? Why would He raise my hopes so high only to drag me lower than I've ever been before. <br /><br />When I awoke from the sedation it all hit me. My baby was gone. I was no longer pregnant. No little pink bundle would be gracing our house in the fall. I was shattered. Although I know logically that this baby couldn't have grown to term in my tube, I feel like I consented to kill the one baby in 10 months of trying that was thriving inside of me.<br /><br />Physically, I feel like I've been stabbed three times in my belly (it was <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">laproscopic</span> surgery). Emotionally I'm just destroyed. I've spent most of the past few days weeping and mourning the loss of our child and our dream of expanding our family. I know that my heart couldn't take another loss. I have two beautiful children and perhaps that was all I was meant to have.<br /><br /> I know that God tests us sometimes, but I just can't fathom the lesson I've been faced with in trying to grow our little family.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-35719055562800318042011-03-16T11:10:00.003-04:002011-03-16T12:54:07.382-04:00Note to self: Menstrual cycle tasks should be performed aloneThis morning as I was in the middle of my morning ablutions, Hayden came in to brush his teeth. Thinking that he was busy watching himself in the mirror, I quickly popped in my Diva cup. When I looked up, Hayden's eyes were as wide as saucers.<br /><br /><em>Hayden (in absolute amazement):</em> Where did that little cup go?<br /><br /><em>Me (cringing):</em> I put it in my vagina buddy.<br /><br /><em>Hayden:</em> That's the best magic trick I ever saw!!<br /><br />And then thankfully, he skipped off before he could ask any more questions. Moments later, he reappeared, his hands full of little plastic army men.<br /><br /><em>Hayden:</em> Can you put these in your secret vagina pocket please mum?<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-8958857136324059382011-03-15T16:53:00.003-04:002011-03-15T21:54:02.979-04:00Envy has made me a bitter cow<span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;"><strong></strong></span><span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;">For ten months now, Adam and I have been trying to create another little life to love.<span> </span>I’ve had a few glimmers of hope.<span> </span>But that little light keeps being extinguished too soon and my own inner light has dimmed.<br /><br /><span> </span></span> <p style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;">No one ever warns you that trying to make a baby can hurt your body, your self-esteem, your view of yourself as a strong woman.<span> </span>If my high school sex ed classes taught me anything, it was that it only takes a solitary sperm casually placed to result in a pregnancy.<span> </span>Sometimes it’s not that easy.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;">After months of trying to conceive and having suffered six early miscarriages, I feel like a wounded fertility veteran.<span> </span>My ability to bear children – the very reason we all still exist – has been called into question.<span> </span>I find myself looking at the pregnant women around me with a mix of envy and venom.<span> </span>Why can she have what I’ve longed for for so long?<span> </span>The fires burn even brighter for those who don't seem to appreciate the blessings they have.<span> </span>I have become a bitter cow.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;">I’m lucky that I’ve found an amazingly supportive group of ladies online who I can cry to, vent to, heal with.<span> </span>While those around me offer kind words of sympathy or advice, it’s one of those things you have to live through to understand.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-CA" style="font-size:100%;">I'm surrounded by pregnant women in my life right now. Each swollen belly makes my own ache. As my sister-in-law nears her due date, I’m reminded that if we hadn’t lost our first pregnancy, I would have a babe in arms already.<span> </span>And yet here my womb waits.<span> </span>Empty.<span> </span>Longing. Hoping.</span></p><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-73922102057804726142011-01-27T12:04:00.002-05:002011-01-27T12:11:08.637-05:00Haydenism of the monthYesterday I got a call from Hayden's school that he was running a fever, pale and complaining of stomach pain. When I picked him up, he had perked up considerably but was still complaining of a sore tummy. We got to the car and the following conversation ensued:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hayden</span>: Can I have a special treat?<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Me</span>: I don't think that's a good idea buddy. Your tummy is upset. You can have some crackers when we get home.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hayden</span>: My tummy doesn't hurt anymore.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Me</span>: Well then I think you've been telling fibs about feeling sick to your tummy, and you don't get special treats if you lie.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hayden</span>: I wasn't lying. My tummy was sad because it was lonely, that's why it hurt. When I saw you, my tummy was happy and didn't hurt any more.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Me </span>(stifling laughter): That's a nice story buddy, but it's hearts that hurt when you're lonely, not stomachs.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hayden</span>: Well my heart did hurt and then my stomach was crying because my heart was so sad, that's why I felt sick.<br /><br />How could you not love this kid?!? And yes, he got a "gorilla" bar once he got home.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-19117113026602547902010-11-26T17:59:00.003-05:002010-11-26T18:03:48.358-05:0030 thingsInspired by a Facebook post, I decided to chime in on my blog instead. Below are 30 things you probably don't know about me...<br /><br /><ol><li>I never flush a public toilet using my hands</li><li>I am totally dyslexic with numbers</li><li>I’m anaphylactic to mango, most nuts, and fresh peaches</li><li>I’ve only coloured my hair twice in my life and both times were disastrous</li><li>I hate drinking water and would rather go thirsty</li><li>When I’m really upset or uncomfortable, I laugh involuntarily</li><li>I still get carsick if I’m not in the front seat</li><li>I can touch my nose with my tongue</li><li>The second and third toes on my left foot are lightly webbed</li><li>I can’t drink orange juice with pulp because it feels like bits of skin in my juice</li><li>I’m still a little afraid of the dark</li><li>I still wear pants that I bought over 12 years ago when I was in college</li><li>I’m really worried about my little girl but afraid that saying it out loud too often will only make my worst fears come true</li><li>I believe in karma and try to put some good out into the world every day</li><li>I use a sharpie marker to touch up my black shoes when they start to wear out</li><li>I’m scared of june bugs</li><li>I hate the taste of coffee and beer</li><li>I make a killer pork chop</li><li>90% of my best friends live more than two hours away from me</li><li>When I was a child, I used to practice using my feet for everything as I was convinced I’d one day lose my hands in some freak accident</li><li>It really turns me on when my husband picks me up without even straining</li><li>I’ve been pregnant 8 times in the past five years, but only have two living children</li><li>I’ve breastfed for over three years now</li><li>The only music I don’t like listening to is heavy metal</li><li>I’ve had the following pets in my lifetime: cats, dogs, gerbils, a hamster, rainbow crab, geckos, tree frogs, fish, an iguana, newts, salamanders, a ball python, ferrets, and a wild mouse</li><li>My feet grow half a size (and stay that way) every time I have a baby</li><li>Women and teenagers who call their father “daddy” make me cringe</li><li>I have to pretend escargot are mushrooms when I eat them or I gag</li><li>I only reveal about ¼ of the writing I do – most of it sits filed but never read</li><li>I stopped using my WiiFit because every time I stepped on the board it made a surprised “Oh!” noise that sounded critical</li></ol><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-35507651498048838132010-11-12T18:03:00.000-05:002010-11-12T18:09:14.499-05:00Balance<span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" id="internal-source-marker_0.8700132538546891">Since I’ve returned to work, I’ve had no less than a dozen people ask me if I’m happy to be back at work. I never know how to answer. I feel like they assume I was just waiting for the day I could escape my children and return to my cubicle. If I say yes, I’m happy to be here, would they infer that I wasn’t happy to be with my children? If I say no, do they then assume that I hate my job?</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Truth be told, no, I am not happy to be back at work. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy that I have a job to go back to in this economy. And if I have to work, I’m glad that I am where I am. I have fabulous coworkers, a knowledgeable boss, and the compensation is really good. But I would like nothing more than to be at home with Hayden and Fliss all day.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">The thought that other people are raising my children grates on me. I drop my babies off at 7am and don’t get to see them again until 4pm. That gives me about ten minutes with them in the morning as we all hustle to get ready (Adam is in charge of getting the kids fed and ready for school), and three to four hours with them at night. I feel like a part-time mother.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Not only do I not get much time with my children, but I often feel like they get the worst of me. I use so much effort and energy at work proving my worth, that when I get home I just feel spent. I often feel like I have no patience, no mental capacity to answer Hayden’s billions of questions, no physical energy to get down and really play with them. All the things I love about motherhood are pushed aside. I catch myself sometimes on the laptop while my children vie for my attention. All I want is five minutes to myself. And all they want is some love and attention from the one who bore them.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">There is no easy fix. I need to work because we need the money and the benefits. I need to expend energy and effort at work to make sure that I still have a job tomorrow. </span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">The children both go to an excellent daycare centre that teaches them not just colours and numbers, but also how to play nicely with others, how to share, and how to express themselves.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">And so my children continue grow. Right before my eyes they change. They learn things that I wish I could have taught them myself. They surprise me nearly daily with the way their little minds are expanding.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">I never wanted to be a working mother. I have a project from elementary school that states quite proudly that “I want to be a mother when I grow up.” In a perfect world, I would be at home with my babies every day. I can’t wait for the day that I can walk Hayden to school every day and have a hot lunch waiting for him when he returns. I can’t wait to spend my afternoons showing Fliss the world around her. I yearn to share my love of nature with them on daily walks. I ache to show them the joy of food by baking and making dinner together. These things all seem to get lost in the shuffle when there is only a few hours together before bed time.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">I’ll keep buying my lottery tickets. And until that winning day, I’m going to make a more concerted effort to really spend time with them every day. </span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"></span><br /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">The laundry, groceries and the rest of the world can wait – tonight I’m too busy being a mother.</span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-63441862669607820322010-11-05T21:31:00.017-04:002010-11-05T22:35:29.113-04:00How a heartsong growsAt this time, on this day, four years ago, I was<a href="http://wordmama.blogspot.com/2008/03/grand-entrance.html"> 9.5<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">cms</span> dilated</a>. A naive girl eager to meet the little life that had already stolen my heart.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhtHpah2-bhtYS9yJIIvLkBjPiNluxqiWRi4nvV6O1x8zXP5DMbvdPWfPr4g7qJq0MOjwE1XCFW-HKV8SfC2zpkt2x-hnuP0azEiy-1bGLlhNQAOzMv6cQXkFCPF_-BUFHz6d5jOcRApeQ/s1600/n721510275_280815_4032.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhtHpah2-bhtYS9yJIIvLkBjPiNluxqiWRi4nvV6O1x8zXP5DMbvdPWfPr4g7qJq0MOjwE1XCFW-HKV8SfC2zpkt2x-hnuP0azEiy-1bGLlhNQAOzMv6cQXkFCPF_-BUFHz6d5jOcRApeQ/s400/n721510275_280815_4032.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536244098988296754" border="0" /></a><br />He taught me the meaning of the word patience. But more importantly, he redefined the word love.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3317AWw9d4GlQ3nSqs-nxxaHpKVahRB40BkqrOk5iA1BUushvyaiqLD9pJ1KBdDVMYGaIsk5q5grsDt41ibtSFkW16KyFGEi3hba6UpfSMH1UX6J9pXMH6DyiIfwD-0wB4y84EZVJkhc/s1600/n721510275_280792_1439.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3317AWw9d4GlQ3nSqs-nxxaHpKVahRB40BkqrOk5iA1BUushvyaiqLD9pJ1KBdDVMYGaIsk5q5grsDt41ibtSFkW16KyFGEi3hba6UpfSMH1UX6J9pXMH6DyiIfwD-0wB4y84EZVJkhc/s400/n721510275_280792_1439.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536245004805981026" border="0" /></a><br />He became my world with one flash of those baby blues.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYSa8a_dz6Uy1r9xE5FHhQA0UwCz7p9FQ68JtV9J5jpBEcWZq6_yBO11OYoYTsT4ZBcZDjlZo1Xg__fytF_74ESowa9k8MOdR_xfB_r8y5kEw7G1iLzxgaXYvlwuKgEZ-XtLYqAFvQmNc/s1600/n721510275_942809_3031.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYSa8a_dz6Uy1r9xE5FHhQA0UwCz7p9FQ68JtV9J5jpBEcWZq6_yBO11OYoYTsT4ZBcZDjlZo1Xg__fytF_74ESowa9k8MOdR_xfB_r8y5kEw7G1iLzxgaXYvlwuKgEZ-XtLYqAFvQmNc/s400/n721510275_942809_3031.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536245644727085442" border="0" /></a><br />As he grew, so did my love for him - though I never thought that possible.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrQs2vY0xuJwogiygZc313iERl18ul6n30cKUatr_4SCtwp-iJRjCcR-s2fiEqnjhDf79-814NUa39xUCmxZyNivrfROlDA9skVZwn56mIXuoJUYIAwddvMMaQ-T6LVLOzkeBA5-11jZU/s1600/n721510275_3016649_8619.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrQs2vY0xuJwogiygZc313iERl18ul6n30cKUatr_4SCtwp-iJRjCcR-s2fiEqnjhDf79-814NUa39xUCmxZyNivrfROlDA9skVZwn56mIXuoJUYIAwddvMMaQ-T6LVLOzkeBA5-11jZU/s400/n721510275_3016649_8619.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536246340901542386" border="0" /></a><br />He became our little shadow. Eager to learn, eager to do, eager to make his mark on the world.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaGQr0tn1LsTuin4aFrmJ7DfMcyyvhNABlD3hT5n-9lDu34rFNA2YajzyQBVR_0wBHPV60jkctP4mJ-6nGp0pHj3ripdNDaq55_UbDGC5lstLpwGigIVFWgdNcYjrsveL9dkQaedIF58Y/s1600/n721510275_3056296_5515.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaGQr0tn1LsTuin4aFrmJ7DfMcyyvhNABlD3hT5n-9lDu34rFNA2YajzyQBVR_0wBHPV60jkctP4mJ-6nGp0pHj3ripdNDaq55_UbDGC5lstLpwGigIVFWgdNcYjrsveL9dkQaedIF58Y/s400/n721510275_3056296_5515.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536246869061528722" border="0" /></a><br />He transformed us from a couple to a family. From husband and wife to father and mother.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-YhsTORg0jgHlMRwPqSkfNLsbZCL52wZ4cygQNK7fWQgdjO_INICuGk1TyZ-p1FXIz8uVhLbsReokoi0IU6SUoNm1kB7R0aOniq2T0SZmNBxuCPiIu2auHGLiN4oQ5oiw4C9i0Yrs004/s1600/n721510275_4736212_367.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 306px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-YhsTORg0jgHlMRwPqSkfNLsbZCL52wZ4cygQNK7fWQgdjO_INICuGk1TyZ-p1FXIz8uVhLbsReokoi0IU6SUoNm1kB7R0aOniq2T0SZmNBxuCPiIu2auHGLiN4oQ5oiw4C9i0Yrs004/s400/n721510275_4736212_367.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536247415053335586" border="0" /></a><br />He looks up to us to guide him, to teach him, to love him.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5WrxyfMrXhRnXR2cggWQEzWcasu9AWFMrLjyzkJufZpdAeHlR3J4zMv0GCgyiCah0yLM16ubA82Nz8B7KiillSO2wEIcoWpv79n8lL3mSXrJ-ModIIRfIIBsedymLgQpOXNGu1KKu3JM/s1600/14243_301358955275_721510275_9382908_4625104_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 266px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5WrxyfMrXhRnXR2cggWQEzWcasu9AWFMrLjyzkJufZpdAeHlR3J4zMv0GCgyiCah0yLM16ubA82Nz8B7KiillSO2wEIcoWpv79n8lL3mSXrJ-ModIIRfIIBsedymLgQpOXNGu1KKu3JM/s400/14243_301358955275_721510275_9382908_4625104_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536247791252239282" border="0" /></a><br />He taught us never to underestimate him. When his sister arrived, he greeted her not with jealousy but with adoration.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgn4IWpekSDHC1tW22q4dUlRAjV4-TX6GzU-UInkr68zWmNGK6aRaucIiNOp9dTMpddxUeIbsUp1pKBhej0c2IW6b4qaVraFfdLsMduwKKGVPBvK-2aNXViBLXufxhFioxZj7k7OlY8FWU/s1600/10231_278328035275_721510275_9069130_5442434_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgn4IWpekSDHC1tW22q4dUlRAjV4-TX6GzU-UInkr68zWmNGK6aRaucIiNOp9dTMpddxUeIbsUp1pKBhej0c2IW6b4qaVraFfdLsMduwKKGVPBvK-2aNXViBLXufxhFioxZj7k7OlY8FWU/s400/10231_278328035275_721510275_9069130_5442434_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536248424401373474" border="0" /></a><br />Watching them together warms my heart. Instead of sibling rivalry, he brings joy and tenderness to his baby sister. Even telling me that he wants more little sisters to love.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPQ92alDcm5jFIUdUGSTV8dBA86VcnROjw5XxtxlXhG1ktUjnvYeMSokKZAPEj9mN3hPz0teFfZ8FFdYBBEplSn2K0giYt6VyWdingt_Sjovb0GzdzPF15Kjp0nxBW1iiT83E8oTJssNs/s1600/41017_10150238721750276_721510275_14237842_1093439_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPQ92alDcm5jFIUdUGSTV8dBA86VcnROjw5XxtxlXhG1ktUjnvYeMSokKZAPEj9mN3hPz0teFfZ8FFdYBBEplSn2K0giYt6VyWdingt_Sjovb0GzdzPF15Kjp0nxBW1iiT83E8oTJssNs/s400/41017_10150238721750276_721510275_14237842_1093439_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536249312594410626" border="0" /></a><br />He is still my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">heartsong</span>. My <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">snuggly</span>, affectionate, emotional, intelligent, active <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">heartsong</span>.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi816HQD8tnS59lOUWgpZxv7tDS0Gl8M7ag8Ail1oyI5-91krTXF-mERu0KtSQps1iO5cKV-QZC-z41_awzdmzuJ3DwteOD0PSTlCFO-AnIcNNz2pMYCLJpVeMR4F66R0RX25SWoTXdkzE/s1600/003_3.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 267px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi816HQD8tnS59lOUWgpZxv7tDS0Gl8M7ag8Ail1oyI5-91krTXF-mERu0KtSQps1iO5cKV-QZC-z41_awzdmzuJ3DwteOD0PSTlCFO-AnIcNNz2pMYCLJpVeMR4F66R0RX25SWoTXdkzE/s400/003_3.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536250169957788738" border="0" /></a><br />Motherhood has been nothing like I thought it would be. It's been more difficult, more rewarding, messier, more challenging, more fun, and much more fulfilling than I ever thought possible.<br /><br />And this little guy...<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwjQa4qhqUxTKWeWORMH_xlwbAt0gC9KRGDcxsC1G4WAKtWnMZ0hdvu3XZC5NgrFAwrkBjEKSd_O6Lv0A_ephijRnUPPhO7vEux5FGo_5vzmOM_XXY1ttvbk-99D1kGlzNYGCCTswnSp4/s1600/IMG_6661.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwjQa4qhqUxTKWeWORMH_xlwbAt0gC9KRGDcxsC1G4WAKtWnMZ0hdvu3XZC5NgrFAwrkBjEKSd_O6Lv0A_ephijRnUPPhO7vEux5FGo_5vzmOM_XXY1ttvbk-99D1kGlzNYGCCTswnSp4/s400/IMG_6661.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536255225869978882" border="0" /></a><br />...he was the catalyst.<br /><br />Happy 4<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">th</span> birthday Hayden. I love you more than my meager words could ever say.<br /><br />Thank you for showing me who I could be and for teaching me what life is really all about.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-62212308065987109842010-10-09T14:20:00.003-04:002010-10-09T14:44:01.749-04:00GoodbyeThanks to the generosity of a few absolutely amazing friends, we were able to have Salem's final moments at home this morning. He went peacefully, with his head in my lap and Adam and I both whispering our love to him. The vet was amazing and himself was in tears. Our boy touched everyone who knew him. The outpouring of love for Salem and for our family has been overwhelming. Just thinking of your kindness has me spilling tears down my cheeks once again.<br /><br />As a tribute to my wonderful boy, I made him a memorial video. All of the pictures that appear during the Sarah McLaughlin music are from after his diagnosis (the last two weeks of his life). The last few pictures, with the amazing fall sun, are from this morning. His final moments.<br /><br />Dear lord, I miss my buddy already.<br /><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dwoT9yUZA3fw5Lu8A6EMkzXCw-urKB96ahSYUzbB6W0f0qokxlDhO6OIRzHbNTSaqmwhBmz-Cg8IHEKMU2kBA' class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-64919143811298962332010-10-07T14:44:00.007-04:002010-10-07T17:13:10.810-04:00Making memoriesAs my final days with my beloved pup whiz past me, I find myself reminiscing days gone by. I’ve also been mourning the fact that there are so few days in his future.<br /><p>You know those moments that in themselves seem insignificant, but put together are actually the definition of life? I keep thinking of things about Salem that I adore. Things that I won’t have any more. I then become panicked that I’ll start forgetting these tiny moments. I felt drawn to capture more clearly all the reasons why I love this boy so very much. </p><ul><li>Even after having him for six years without incident, he’s still terrified of thunder storms. </li><li>How that fear leads him to lay under any part of you he can find, or if you’re in bed, to pant forcefully in your face until you comfort him. </li><li>His shiny brown freckled nose. So fair that it sometimes burns in the summer. </li><li>His deliciously soft carmel ears. So silky that they rival velvet. </li><li>How he tucks his rear end down when he’s running to be more aerodynamic. </li><li>When my mum was doggie-sitting, he quickly learned where the treats were and would sit expectantly waiting in front of the cupboard until she obliged. </li><li>The tiny white tip at the end of his tail. So subtle a change in colour from his apricot hind quarters that you have to really know him to notice. </li><li>The way he licks Felicity’s face whenever she comes near, sending her into fits of giggles and making her lean in over and over. </li><li>That his only trick was – sit, shake a paw, other paw, lay down – and only in that order. If you tried to mix it up, he’d get completely confused. </li><li>He has long white eyelashes and knows exactly how to look up at you from under them for the best puppy dog eyes. </li><li>When he’s really happy, his tail curls over on itself, husky style. </li><li>His ears can turn in a hundred different directions and completely independent of each other. </li><li>He cuddles his stuffed bear as a mother would her pup. </li><li>His scar from the car accident gives him a tough guy look. </li><li>When he goes to the dog park, he’s always the loudest dog there. Barking greetings at every dog and human he sees. </li><li>In the winter, he would dig himself a hole in the snow and then curl up in it with his tail neatly covering his nose. All you could see within minutes in a snow fall were his two big brown eyes. </li><li>He knew at night time that he wasn’t allowed on the couch as long as I was downstairs. Sometimes I’d be curled up under a blanket and he’d put his paw on the couch. All I had to do was clear my throat and he’d pull it back quick as a bunny. </li><li>When we lived in the apartment in Ottawa, Salem would bring his bear out every morning for his walk, carrying him lovely in his mouth to the amusement of our neighbours. </li><li>If you leave any piece of laundry on the floor, even a sock, Salem will turn in circles and lay down just right so he can rest his head on said clothing. </li><li>He loved to perch himself on the picnic table in the summer – looking like the king of his domain. </li><li>Salem is actually a keen hunter. A few times we had to bury the body of an unlucky squirrel or rabbit. </li><li>Once, Salem was trying to dig out a bunny den under the shed. He actually dug himself under the shed and then got stuck. Took me half an hour to find him. </li><li>He never did learn how to walk on a leash. To Salem, if you attached a rope to him, you were obviously wanting to be pulled around at top speed. He would have made an excellent sled dog. </li><li>Salem loses enough hair in a shed (which happens at least twice a year) to make a whole new dog. He loses it in clumps so that he often looks like a moulting deer and leaves big fluffs of hair all over. </li><li>In the winter, Salem’s paws grow long tufts of hair between the pads to protect them from the cold. </li><li>He hates eating out of metal bowls. </li><li>He never bit or mouthed any of the kids. Even when Hayden would pull on either sides of his lips to see how far they stretched. </li><li>He loves to completely destroy any stick that dares fall in his yard. </li><li>He once leapt from a porch about 6' off the ground to pursue a squirrel (which sent Adam off right after him – no one had ever seen my husband move so fast). </li><li>Just the sound of his collar tags jingling together makes him happy. </li><li>When a strange man once walked into our apartment while Salem and I were alone, he slowly raised to his feet, issuing a deep, powerful growl with teeth bared and heckles raised. He walked slowly and deliberately towards him until he turned and fled (it turned out he was a lost resident looking for the office). </li><li>His favourite place on earth is Bruce Pit in Ottawa (a huge, treed off-leash park). He could smell it from a mile away and would start whining as soon as he caught wind of it. </li><li>At Christmas Salem would always be right in the middle of the action, slowly being covered in tissue paper. </li><li>We once left a roast defrosting on the counter. When we came home after work, we found only a bloody stain on the carpet to show for it.</li><li>Often times when you drive away from the house, you’ll look back at the big front window to see him perched on the back of the couch to get one last look at you. </li><li>When Salem sleeps on the bed, he likes to have his own pillow to rest his head on (though yours will do in a pinch). </li><li>He has been the best dog ever. The one that all past dogs and all future dogs will be compared to. </li><li>His parting is going to leave a hole in my heart forever.</li></ul><img style="text-align: center; margin: 0px auto 10px; width: 400px; display: block; height: 264px;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5525379346348209058" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDbWWIlwI4LMPhmn9jfrEiBTk4x_qPxx-lBzZohIy6eGFTNbokgzLSOCKM-oTeAUwX8CVw0du1NMGtl228af7EZ1lQRHNHeRQqipLfaUGWgh3p1xr5BGx7BqG25YbHbVDJ725OspvDvao/s400/salem_Page_1.jpg" border="0" /><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-84624569390624888702010-10-05T20:17:00.006-04:002010-10-05T20:38:26.207-04:00Being strong sometimes means being able to let go.Six years ago, Adam and I decided that we were ready to expand our family. We researched, we prepared our home, we talked to others who had taken the leap. We were going to get a dog.<br /><br />We both decided that the only way to go was with a rescue pup. We combed the Humane Society’s website for weeks looking for just the perfect dog for us. When a beagle named Tucker appeared in the photo line-up, we decided we had to meet him.<br /><br />After arriving at the shelter and being seated in the meeting room, a young woman walked Tucker in. We happily called to him and clapped our hands but he completely ignored us. He then lifted his leg and peed on the wall. Our interview was over.<br /><br />Before she took Tucker away, I mentioned to her that in the front entrance another dog’s profile had caught our attention. Was Salem still available? She clutched at her heart and grinned, gushing, “Oh Salem is just my favourite! I’ll bring him right in.”<br /><br />Salem walked into the room with only about half of his body covered in fur. The other half was scattered with road rash and shaved patches from an inopportune meeting with a car. He looked a complete mess, but as soon as he saw us, his whole body wriggled with excitement. His tail wagged madly and he bounded over to lick our hands and sniff our pants. He then rolled over on his back to expose his belly for scratching. We were smitten.<br /><br />The staff insisted that we sleep on it before making our final decision. Instead we ran around buying him a collar, a leash, and some toys – the decision had already been made. As we lay in bed that night, we talked about how excited we were and how nervous we were that someone might make a mistake and give Salem to someone else.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJN_Gnr_aAYE9hnGSDfmGyB2hLephJTjsVwBd-Q03uiBL2Hh169NtI_bgXVDaCgtzAnirqveSPXFPe0IoW1bK3E-MzgYvRBII6LNjy5bMN5X74xSl90098mTzEShnhC0EtwAATKfeTWxU/s1600/P1010001.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJN_Gnr_aAYE9hnGSDfmGyB2hLephJTjsVwBd-Q03uiBL2Hh169NtI_bgXVDaCgtzAnirqveSPXFPe0IoW1bK3E-MzgYvRBII6LNjy5bMN5X74xSl90098mTzEShnhC0EtwAATKfeTWxU/s320/P1010001.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524721060605341474" border="0" /></a><br />When I went to officially adopt him the next day, it was cold and snowy. As we walked out of the back room, Salem yanked me around on the leash and made a bee-line for the exit. I sat him in the back seat of the car, and by the time I’d come around to the driver’s side, he was perched on the passenger seat. I wondered if we’d just adopted a big hairy ball of trouble.<br /><br />In the first few months, we really got to know one another. Salem was tentative and a bit fearful. If we ever raised our voices to him, he’d roll on his back and promptly pee all over himself.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_BP8W9rt-5cAUG2ZN1vtiYqp3eAHwV1IeQdvWlbs3ThWEeu8Y8VIqs1e1acCAlk0ok4WN3Yn8yWjuU48rWPIpiSzBAXORGj04kIgRRSQvStxd_32WXb1_JseJ-AU_sA5WXv88XxpSmfk/s1600/Salem+075.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_BP8W9rt-5cAUG2ZN1vtiYqp3eAHwV1IeQdvWlbs3ThWEeu8Y8VIqs1e1acCAlk0ok4WN3Yn8yWjuU48rWPIpiSzBAXORGj04kIgRRSQvStxd_32WXb1_JseJ-AU_sA5WXv88XxpSmfk/s320/Salem+075.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524721351180052338" border="0" /></a><br />He still pulled like crazy on the leash. And despite our encouragement, he would NEVER get on the couch or the bed to snuggle. We learned that Salem used his ears to communicate. His “Yoda ears” registered his fear, excitement, curiosity, and contentment.<br /><br />It wasn’t long before love started to work its magic. Salem began to come out of his shell and be more playful. He ignored the multiple toys we bought him and instead adopted one of my very expensive collector bears. Bear became Salem’s baby and he carried him everywhere - even out to pee. Salem would whip Bear around and shake him mercilessly, only to redeem himself by gently grooming and licking Bear as a mother would her pup.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixwUQItndtTUNH8klDpvv8y4oBWk4qK6mJsWVUaYzgoTvxtS0VP6uGMPvLfLY_Ve-Hg1ODbnFAXkOh8jaNhdt2SwfZ2sKQ5jqbvg8fGIP9QAOsEdWub-9V8kd7BQtdzxHvimF24ZI-9Sw/s1600/Salem+078.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixwUQItndtTUNH8klDpvv8y4oBWk4qK6mJsWVUaYzgoTvxtS0VP6uGMPvLfLY_Ve-Hg1ODbnFAXkOh8jaNhdt2SwfZ2sKQ5jqbvg8fGIP9QAOsEdWub-9V8kd7BQtdzxHvimF24ZI-9Sw/s320/Salem+078.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524722523962407682" border="0" /></a><br />It certainly didn’t take long before Salem was firmly planted in our hearts as our fur baby. He wriggled into our family’s hearts as well; my mum (in lieu of any grandchildren), referred to Salem as her grand-doggy. And like their future grandchildren would be, Salem was spoiled rotten.<br /><br />When we first brought Hayden home, Salem seemed to understand that he had a new member of the pack to protect. When Hayden cried, Salem would pace from Hayden’s cradle to the living room until one of us went to attend to him. As Hayden started crawling and toddling, Salem endured many hair pulls and ear tugs. His retort was to madly lick Hayden’s face. It worked every time.<br /><br />Salem was our baby before we had babies. He taught us how to care for another life. He taught us responsibility. He taught us what unconditional love was.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizIXK90DIrbkICGOt2L1cveB5JGH3loAHhhsoVz2jZWsu0bFNbLdUFSjZUeqDIiteSGMSdlTFzSHecLB8egLAYwCLW8-VDAG3riOxLKYr1hFYlfRXPxGVp4PCzsbtQw_dJKX-Q0IX9_1Y/s1600/Salem+009.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizIXK90DIrbkICGOt2L1cveB5JGH3loAHhhsoVz2jZWsu0bFNbLdUFSjZUeqDIiteSGMSdlTFzSHecLB8egLAYwCLW8-VDAG3riOxLKYr1hFYlfRXPxGVp4PCzsbtQw_dJKX-Q0IX9_1Y/s320/Salem+009.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524722171294769122" border="0" /></a><br /><br />And now, our baby is sick. On September 23 we learned that he has terminal bone cancer. He hadn’t been himself for the few weeks prior and seemed a bit sore. We thought that his arthritis was acting up. We never thought that we were going to have to begin palliative care.<br /><br />The vet thought that perhaps we would have the weekend with him to say goodbye. But our strong, determined doggie has now held on for over a week. Living on love, morphine, and a diet of delicious people food, he’s been pretty comfortable. But these last two days we’ve seen him slide downhill again. His breathing is quick and laboured. His appetite is gone again. His shiny brown nose has dulled. It’s the beginning of the end.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEge1JaP6uFS0mpOjW_juXnSyHb3TtppL9IY1cJzm5Zso3b1CMw58GaEswRlOkTxt6uuiyyyWq-FAf48bx-YNYD8Ej3NCPPq0Oi-2Oi6gR-cY9PLZVhOARUbiwjLdrDzUVo6WV7b2A12Fhw/s1600/Picture+019.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEge1JaP6uFS0mpOjW_juXnSyHb3TtppL9IY1cJzm5Zso3b1CMw58GaEswRlOkTxt6uuiyyyWq-FAf48bx-YNYD8Ej3NCPPq0Oi-2Oi6gR-cY9PLZVhOARUbiwjLdrDzUVo6WV7b2A12Fhw/s320/Picture+019.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524725845810088594" border="0" /></a><br />Yesterday Adam started the heartbreaking process of finding a vet to help us release Salem from his pain. The cost to have a vet come to your home, lay your pup to rest, give him a proper cremation and then have his ashes returned to us is going to be around $700. We’re now faced with a horrible decision. Do we sink ourselves further into debt when we’re already drowning to give him the farewell he so rightly deserves? Or do we do the “responsible” thing and bring him to a place he fears in order to cut our final vet bill in half?<br /><br />This no-win situation has led me to do something I’ve never done before. I’m reaching out to my readers to help us. I’m asking you to donate a few dollars to help us say goodbye to Salem where he is happiest, at home. But I can’t let your charity end with our little family. Every dollar that you donate will be matched with a donation to our local animal shelter over the next year. Not only will you help our rescued pup, but you’ll help countless other shelter animals too. If you feel inclined, you can donate to our PayPal account (creativecommunicator@gmail.com). You could also do an email transfer to the same account.<br /><br />I’ve said goodbye to five furry family members over the years. But I’ve never had to be the one to make the tough decisions. It seems that even in his final days, Salem is still teaching us. He’s teaching us humility, mercy, and how to say goodbye. How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJV3mIPLy6Wk2ea9-NBsIaNqepZ9MrGt1Ip8RmKuGKAPXahwixWXAIJhSlMgQHQHdJQcSsvhAv4kRd01CrpvzLHtRWNzMTPYXQyePCJgCNWaJiNAnwQ1TTSVUayLuRTjC8xmJHKVIAplU/s1600/DSC03449.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 213px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJV3mIPLy6Wk2ea9-NBsIaNqepZ9MrGt1Ip8RmKuGKAPXahwixWXAIJhSlMgQHQHdJQcSsvhAv4kRd01CrpvzLHtRWNzMTPYXQyePCJgCNWaJiNAnwQ1TTSVUayLuRTjC8xmJHKVIAplU/s320/DSC03449.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5524723831301126098" border="0" /></a><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-73615659020487471562010-09-30T21:53:00.005-04:002010-10-01T08:08:25.561-04:00Fliss BlissYou tried to arrive before the party had started.<br />But neither of us were truly ready.<br />And so we waited.<br /><br />On the morning of your arrival (months later),<br />I awoke disbelieving that the waves that rolled through me<br />Were the real deal.<br />Before long there was no denying.<br />You were on your way.<br /><br />Our plans to greet you naturally<br />Were soon set aside.<br />As your curious nature<br />Drew you to peek down the exit.<br /><br />You were pulled from my belly<br />With scalpels and forceps.<br />And with a tiny cry<br />You were placed forever in my heart.<br /><br />Happy first birthday my sweet girl.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-15647159048547158182010-08-22T20:24:00.013-04:002010-08-22T21:08:24.177-04:00Adopting the pace of natureLast week I spent seven days with my in-laws at a cottage. To clarify, there were 17 people (including five teenagers and two children) and two dogs with one kitchen and two bathrooms. Sounds like a disaster doesn't it?! Especially considering that every day I'm becoming more like my mother in that I REALLY enjoy my alone time every day.<br /><br />Before we left, as we matriarchs tried to figure out the logistics of feeding and sleeping this army, I had a mini breakdown about it all. I was envisioning a tiny cabin, a rained out week, two miserable children, and one completely mental me. To be honest, I was dreading this "vacation." As we pulled away from our home on Saturday in our car with no AC, I was in a complete funk. I was sure that I'd have to insult the entire clan by leaving early to retain my sanity.<br /><br />And then we arrived. While the rain pattered around us, we pulled up to this amazing cottage and I felt my spirits rise.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgo8HriCE9LAufD7Hj9PNR__rYwP_sOLt4EM_Bw-3N395DzJLhefDwMSRJAfdK4A_Z3xE9gLkJGgwCKA8z9c5v7odJntunCpLJpCkt7PQ6hIL7F0APXXaPoo6Q0UQC3f0BQ1xeQGMyq-Gk/s1600/DSC03451.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgo8HriCE9LAufD7Hj9PNR__rYwP_sOLt4EM_Bw-3N395DzJLhefDwMSRJAfdK4A_Z3xE9gLkJGgwCKA8z9c5v7odJntunCpLJpCkt7PQ6hIL7F0APXXaPoo6Q0UQC3f0BQ1xeQGMyq-Gk/s320/DSC03451.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508396875968404546" border="0" /></a><br />The great room was huge, baby-friendly, and with wipeable leather furniture. The kitchen was large and industrial, there were two fridges and a huge gas cooker. Our bedroom was bright and spacious with a king sized bed and room for Fliss' play yard and Hayden's Diego bed. It also had a door onto a great balcony - the perfect, quiet alone space I had feared lost! And the path to the water? No steep stairs, no jagged rocks, just pebbles and sand leading to a perfect sandy weed-free beach!<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGjGFVrn2ix0tRxBfs1rr2P-xob-hCloCorFfR3DQO7WW0fW9ty0omLJ_waU002EVvBDT-c3Ji00Tsp1X5QFqBK8H38ncRYpgYNWHJ5JePEi3JtXr3e8L0BbEwilJVDZM3u2CJnv8kM-I/s1600/IMG_6269.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGjGFVrn2ix0tRxBfs1rr2P-xob-hCloCorFfR3DQO7WW0fW9ty0omLJ_waU002EVvBDT-c3Ji00Tsp1X5QFqBK8H38ncRYpgYNWHJ5JePEi3JtXr3e8L0BbEwilJVDZM3u2CJnv8kM-I/s320/IMG_6269.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508398193390957810" border="0" /></a><br />I quickly unpacked our bags and cooler and began to feel myself relax. As the other families arrived, I expected my anxiety to return. And yet, I remained completely chilled. Everyone was so happy to be there, so respectful of each other (yes, even the teenagers), that we all easily came together as one huge family. We cooked together, played together, cleaned together, shared kid-watching duties, fished, gazed at the fire in a huge circle....it was like being at Bronte Creek again, only with my extended family.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxt8mf7MRy3Z8H-5YwqHZzV4HmnPPQiUiK4GJJLCH2sZo-wHL7Z4e5mbirbcC_8DikXjR9nCNBF2pCrcX8P9oqc3231h9mOXHDWUGPh9Sz_XjNMqUDiUDy4g98lqvHDosaPcjhMUIlPd0/s1600/IMG_6270.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxt8mf7MRy3Z8H-5YwqHZzV4HmnPPQiUiK4GJJLCH2sZo-wHL7Z4e5mbirbcC_8DikXjR9nCNBF2pCrcX8P9oqc3231h9mOXHDWUGPh9Sz_XjNMqUDiUDy4g98lqvHDosaPcjhMUIlPd0/s320/IMG_6270.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508399723284295426" border="0" /></a><br />I surprised myself with how harmonious I felt with my cottage-mates. Instead of stressing over people eating Fliss' special gluten-free food, I roasted marshmellows and played king of the dock, I drank too much wine and caught the first big fish of the trip. I was too busy having fun to worry.<br /><br />Adam's family tends to have a mantra of "things will just work out" which usually goes against my mantra of "plan for everything so you're not surprised." This past week, I witnessed and experienced just how relaxing going with the flow can be. Truly, with memories like these:<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo7Q02mY2GMzkIO0ar4FkHiRChRrE8usfQAYyiL31TSgdFVENOUzVlgAGhR1xTcnqIm8GUiISGzi8k35jiNLcOiNpy-tkjw5y9BPjeXc6QZh6VWk9OLqIhMIuSEERmhdN5rCgXrH5x378/s1600/DSC03449.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 213px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo7Q02mY2GMzkIO0ar4FkHiRChRrE8usfQAYyiL31TSgdFVENOUzVlgAGhR1xTcnqIm8GUiISGzi8k35jiNLcOiNpy-tkjw5y9BPjeXc6QZh6VWk9OLqIhMIuSEERmhdN5rCgXrH5x378/s320/DSC03449.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508400786619434546" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhm3w6jCuVZeOnNM_-Fk8a1uE-0e9o8O8mACwOIGxlP6ktfpcbJoMLf0deYli2G69kA1ACnO2WmkPNxbtoPIRmqZ9Nvt7N0aBBcb7fsD77NCrb2TrrOaxSFAkm6-iNlsE4TToMAdnwp648/s1600/IMG_6364.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhm3w6jCuVZeOnNM_-Fk8a1uE-0e9o8O8mACwOIGxlP6ktfpcbJoMLf0deYli2G69kA1ACnO2WmkPNxbtoPIRmqZ9Nvt7N0aBBcb7fsD77NCrb2TrrOaxSFAkm6-iNlsE4TToMAdnwp648/s320/IMG_6364.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508401915651356578" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL5vWcbbcPV68Lh-Cyf5hB7n6HL0vx75XwhUVhA6sYiQederz4lYEtB8E6-76QAPZVoTTKdZwQGAHs7vv4VqvOkbZG6nekNLaaWQeYOaOvxhjiiRnYiY2PP9cvw98CjBd0O7NKllPG4cU/s1600/IMG_6345.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL5vWcbbcPV68Lh-Cyf5hB7n6HL0vx75XwhUVhA6sYiQederz4lYEtB8E6-76QAPZVoTTKdZwQGAHs7vv4VqvOkbZG6nekNLaaWQeYOaOvxhjiiRnYiY2PP9cvw98CjBd0O7NKllPG4cU/s320/IMG_6345.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508401587505156594" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9qJ3SzIpIrfjzaP9QEQjjdcv-YQVlecYLgq6ceiBUevZbKCEnC6oS8dOioiig6q3sX4CL_omYz0b7YNLSKpTPT0Aauz2Jjdq8WBl3MSrQ0laFDQ6BhSJvgylAROqX-ysZtuwQ1Lm2YQU/s1600/IMG_6372.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9qJ3SzIpIrfjzaP9QEQjjdcv-YQVlecYLgq6ceiBUevZbKCEnC6oS8dOioiig6q3sX4CL_omYz0b7YNLSKpTPT0Aauz2Jjdq8WBl3MSrQ0laFDQ6BhSJvgylAROqX-ysZtuwQ1Lm2YQU/s320/IMG_6372.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508402260689047522" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjV5GjSKO4im4z9IBVeCF3hKQB6yVhN9WszbxqwPSiHHwCAiu-1d2Cae-T4nGwkj3B1Lqf9Uhh-bU-QDOzCIEosJ1Q663H3vE5Lt_a4L80YudJYNhjvzimHqbs4Xik2MQio2sWwaQfSaiw/s1600/DSC03479.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 213px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjV5GjSKO4im4z9IBVeCF3hKQB6yVhN9WszbxqwPSiHHwCAiu-1d2Cae-T4nGwkj3B1Lqf9Uhh-bU-QDOzCIEosJ1Q663H3vE5Lt_a4L80YudJYNhjvzimHqbs4Xik2MQio2sWwaQfSaiw/s320/DSC03479.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508403147694437858" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6slaRoKrJSWnmA_oceZlySl58x7oClrrLeOeac7uhy_SnpZPYvpk-iSlW3s4x3037dy9zCM34XwvnA4sCVe3D6uEXx2PTlrTK5kZPYmjev3B3mqa738H2gqGdP__S-I1TU4-h_TCxgK4/s1600/DSC03465.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 213px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6slaRoKrJSWnmA_oceZlySl58x7oClrrLeOeac7uhy_SnpZPYvpk-iSlW3s4x3037dy9zCM34XwvnA4sCVe3D6uEXx2PTlrTK5kZPYmjev3B3mqa738H2gqGdP__S-I1TU4-h_TCxgK4/s320/DSC03465.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508401129212857458" border="0" /></a>the only word I can summon for my family vacation is <span style="font-weight: bold;">bliss</span>.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-30553733079074310532010-07-23T08:55:00.003-04:002010-07-23T08:58:22.961-04:00Beware the nudie police!Me (on the way to school this morning): Look Hayden! That police man pulled someone over.<br /><br />Hayden: Oh yeah! I bet he's getting a ticket. He must have been speeding. *long pause* ....or getting naked!<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuyQwQzzGbXk32wrfQ9BPL3UBoXOSDWby4GAFW-y2gnNuQl-GwG1VLIiy_hyphenhyphenrRTnyZ5R0S6onxIc9Hd8Crckb6k2WmJ2zXbE7Zw-ak6BMbeYBAdmXW9CP82Ecknm892eRGycswaOhc7lY/s1600/DSC03341.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 213px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuyQwQzzGbXk32wrfQ9BPL3UBoXOSDWby4GAFW-y2gnNuQl-GwG1VLIiy_hyphenhyphenrRTnyZ5R0S6onxIc9Hd8Crckb6k2WmJ2zXbE7Zw-ak6BMbeYBAdmXW9CP82Ecknm892eRGycswaOhc7lY/s320/DSC03341.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497085029868049410" border="0" /></a><br />That's my boy!<div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
Lucy8533925</i></div>wordmamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06944054280970181055noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221471234934593679.post-30784911026127640952010-07-20T20:47:00.009-04:002010-07-21T13:01:46.079-04:00Mom really does know best!<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Mompreneurs</span> are my new favourite people! When I don't know what to buy someone or I need something out of the ordinary, a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">mompreneur</span> has helped me out every time! Recently I've worked with three different <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">mompreneurs</span> who have blown me out of the water with their products and service! I need to rave about them here and encourage my dear readers to try them too!<br /><br />My first satisfying mom-based purchase was from Debby of <a href="http://www.blogger.com/www.otterblotters.com">Otter Babies</a>. Debby makes cloth diapers that are unrivaled for their ingenious design and super cute patterns. Otter Blotters are my new favourite cloth diapers! I'd totally switch our stash over completely if I had the cash. If you cloth diaper your kids, or are looking into it, check out her diapers for sure! They have a hidden <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">velcro</span> closure that allows for fast diaper changes without the annoyance of diaper chains in the laundry. Plus the inserts dry quickly, absorb a ton, and you can customize them however you want!<br /><br />When Debby's latest design didn't fit my needs perfectly, she paid to have the cover sent back, repaired it, and then she returned the cover to me with another FREE cover for my troubles! You can't beat that kind of personal service!<br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN2P3MEa9xq4FgCM0JdplCu19pBNIU7tV3nsVE9ajoqtVOL-I5msSg71jL_Ec97Obr1prR-tWyNNpGXyqC66ffnEpEEDddFY_nFn4GDJUcqBIgVQfXtwMngpi5qFJ9fAEXEwfwnC8316M/s1600/OB.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN2P3MEa9xq4FgCM0JdplCu19pBNIU7tV3nsVE9ajoqtVOL-I5msSg71jL_Ec97Obr1prR-tWyNNpGXyqC66ffnEpEEDddFY_nFn4GDJUcqBIgVQfXtwMngpi5qFJ9fAEXEwfwnC8316M/s320/OB.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496167682426888610" border="0" /></a><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"></span><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Fliss</span> in one of her Otter Blotters!</span><br /></div><br />Michelle from <a href="http://gemcloth.webs.com/">GEM Cloths</a> is my next favourite super <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">mompreneur</span>. Michelle makes reusable <span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">feminine mama cloth menstrual pads. The thought of mama cloth turned me off at first, but I soon realized that it was </span></span><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">really </span></span><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">no different than cloth diapering. Plus I could benefit from the same chemical-free comfort that <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">Fliss</span> enjoys! I was leery to spend all sorts of money on pads that might not work for me, when some friends pointed me Michelle's way.<br /><br />For $35, Michelle made me what she calls a "grab bag." It contained pretty much all the mama cloth I'll need for a cycle. And hello! They are gorgeous and so super soft!! I was actually looking forward to my monthly so I could try them out! I can tell you that I didn't have one leak, one shift, and no "diaper rash" like I get from regular menstrual products. I highly recommend all women try these wonderful alternatives! Michelle is wonderful to work with and helped this mama cloth newbie to know exactly what I was looking for, how many, and how to care for them. Plus she's a super nice lady to boot!<br /><br /></span></span><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIRLwTS6a2D0gBsMntZuRj1IZjpdmYTAj0jYts9QlZRk2oA0V1FHIYv5Iusbjq7FAUmffX_fGRY4to-Qk7t_bJVEs1cnP1UDeUThePW5vMN2UAWHXlv2qdmCVBncLLGErfsKu6IGMuu5Y/s1600/GEM.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIRLwTS6a2D0gBsMntZuRj1IZjpdmYTAj0jYts9QlZRk2oA0V1FHIYv5Iusbjq7FAUmffX_fGRY4to-Qk7t_bJVEs1cnP1UDeUThePW5vMN2UAWHXlv2qdmCVBncLLGErfsKu6IGMuu5Y/s320/GEM.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496168841620113666" border="0" /></a><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71); font-style: italic;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">A few of the gorgeous mama cloths from my grab bag!</span></span><br /></div><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br /></span> <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">My third <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">momprenuer</span> superstar is one that is local to me. Kristen, of </span><a style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);" href="http://www.ecobabies.ca/">Eaton Family <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">EcoBabies</span></a><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"> helped me to make the jump to be an exclusively cloth diapering family. Through her free diaper workshop (which I recommend to anyone who wants to cloth diaper or who has started but wants to learn more), I got the complete low down on just how diverse the cloth diaper industry is! She helped to demystify washing routines, options (like <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">prefolds</span> - though I still suck at them), and helped me to understand the pros and cons of different fabrics available. Kristen has an AWESOME loaner program as well, that we plan to use for our next bundle of joy (before baby can fit into our stash)!</span> <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br /><br />Kristen is the guru of more than just diapers though. She </span></span><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">is pretty much responsible for helping this crunchy mama to be even more earth friendly. </span></span><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">She sold me my first Diva Cup, child ear protection (for Hayden's super sensitive ears - seriously, these are amazing!), teething amber, all natural sunscreen, and so much more. Adam has actually implemented an <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">EcoBabies</span> budget because I always find something I love while I'm there!</span> <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br /></span></span><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXPLJwHLRv7BUvuTyNzQYI8OFX_x_U1Mwu9AiKGHUK1dWVrUnOTwj0ZelWLfsd0t5SfPGP9SpDEWZ6fhnr4CzeygnmWh8sLXMV3U_FmNYMxFkS50Q5KKVhI_Jklkg8_9JjdQPjsm8dtn4/s1600/34505_10150222390765716_548530715_13495717_5133198_n.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 235px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXPLJwHLRv7BUvuTyNzQYI8OFX_x_U1Mwu9AiKGHUK1dWVrUnOTwj0ZelWLfsd0t5SfPGP9SpDEWZ6fhnr4CzeygnmWh8sLXMV3U_FmNYMxFkS50Q5KKVhI_Jklkg8_9JjdQPjsm8dtn4/s320/34505_10150222390765716_548530715_13495717_5133198_n.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496169320674732530" border="0" /></a><span style="font-style: italic;">Hayden wearing his Baby <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Banz</span> ear protectors at the Canada Day parade!</span><br /></div><span style="color: rgb(70, 41, 71);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br />So the next time you're struggling with a unique gift, or looking for something different for yourself, I urge you to drive past the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">Walmarts</span> and Home Depots of the world. Search out the little guys who can give you phenomenal customer service without ever having to leave your house! And if you do decide to buy from any of </span>the fabulous ladies above, tell them Lucy sent you!<br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><i>© Lucy Goddard and Wordmama, 2011. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express permission from this blog’s owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, if full and clear credit is given with specific links to the original content.
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